“Do not forget to fall in love with yourself first” Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City, American romantic comedy TV series in the late 90s and beginning of 00s.
When I was a teenager, I hated everything about myself. My breasts were small, I had spots in my face and I had to wear glasses because I am short-sighted (until I discovered the contact lenses which was the happiest day of my teenage life). I was wearing make-up hoping that it will cover my flaws and reveal some beauty in my face, which I didn’t believe I had. Also, I was skinny and taller than the other kids, even the boys, which made my life so much harder than it already was. In other words, life sucked. Okay, honestly, why was I even born?
In my 20s, I still hated the way I looked. Not as much, but I did, still. But…wait a minute. The short-sighted condition has been resolved with the contact lenses and the spots in my face would start to disappear. I was tall still, with small breasts but that didn’t seem like a tremendous issue anymore, on the contrary. Models were tall and most of them had small breasts and they were being worshipped so, I thought these must be beauty assets then. But I was not convinced yet. I was not happy (probably because I was not a model).
Later on, it was not just about my looks, it was also life itself and how I have been positioned in it because of who I was born to be and what I was meant to experience. There were times that life was really hard (who said life is easy?) and it felt like I have been ‘hit” and knocked down unconscious. Oh, please! I know, I was such a drama queen back then. Drama is good but only if you are watching it on Netflix.
Life does not ‘hit’ anyone, but it is challenging everyone. It depends on you who you choose to be (your true self or a pitiful version of yourself) and how you respond to the everyday challenges. As long as you breath, you can accomplish anything and turn your life around anytime. It is totally up to you. “Life is happening FOR you not to you. You determine how you feel by the way you communicate with yourself“, Tony Robbins.
Well, it took me about a dozen panic attacks, one stressful depression, three therapists and a few years of losing myself (it sounds almost like a recipe but I would never recommend to try it) to understand to my very core what I have already known: Life is too short for drama! Find the best way to communicate with yourself, embrace who you are and start living the amazing life you have been given, oh so gracefully, because you are not getting any younger….I can promise you that.
Trust me, you do not want to waste years losing yourself, however, it is an every day training with yourself to finding, becoming and loving who you are. I wake up every morning and prime myself for 15 minutes before I start my day.
First, I express my gratitude for waking up one more day and say thank you for three things that I have in my life and I am so very grateful for, i.e. being healthy, having a family and having a home to go to bed at night. If you are being grateful, you cannot be upset or angry at the same time and this is an ideal way to be starting your day in positive vibes.
Second, I listen to music and start moving my body to the rythm, getting all the energy flowing from head to toe. Music is what works for me, for you it could be something else, as long as it makes you move your body and elevates your mood. Energy is the most important factor that helps you take action and progress with your life. When you follow a lifestyle that creates health and energy, everything else falls into place: you feel better, you look better, you have more energy and you begin to optimise the areas of your life that are most important to you and empowering you.
If you are pretending to be anything other than who you really are, you will never reach your personal potential. Gary Zukav, teaches that ‘when the personality comes fully to serve the energy of the soul, that is authentic power‘. And that’s all there is because you are going to lose everything else, eventually.
“It doesn’t matter how beautiful you are, one day your breasts are going to sag, your eyes are going to bag and you are not going to be as beautiful. And no matter how much botox you have or how many times you get yourself pulled up or how many hairdos and make overs or what you do, they don’t last. Everything passes in its time. Everything changes. But what is real, what is lasting is who you are and what you were meant to bring in this world. What is the gift you were meant to give, and nobody can take that away from you.” Oprah Winfrey.
So, what does it take for you to love the skin your are in?